Why Intimacy?
October 21, 2010
We humans favor the familiar. We gravitate to what we know. Familiarity is the nostalgic tale on intimacy’s lips, and we love it, never tiring of the story. Intimacy whispers to our lost sense of connection, telling us the most important thing we need to know – that everything is going to be all right. It is the feeling we get when someone or something “hits home” – when all the atoms and molecules line up… just right.
A good writer can convey this feeling, as can a great actor. One of the most intense experiences intimacy can provide is that of love-at-first-sight. Fact is, any charismatic man or woman can deliver on intimacy’s promise – the feeling of union that it offers. Those who are able to engender this powerful, nostalgic sensation have a tremendous advantage over those who cannot, because, for better or worse, life is a popularity contest.
Lovers are won over; business deals are sealed; best sellers are created; box office records are smashed; elections are clinched; and history is made – the world’s fate turns on this elusive, most intangible thing called intimacy, and it belongs to those who can create it.
Why? Because we live in a world of “others,” our energies constantly mingling. The quality of our interaction plays a vital role in determining the quality of our lives. The moments we share, both personally and professionally, deeply alter the nature of our reality – heaven or hell, literally determined by the character of our connections. If this is true, what experience should we aim for to get the most out of life?
To put it in visual terms, if interaction had a target, intimacy would be the bull’s eye.
My colleague, Jerome Feldman, MA, and I are creating a series of interactive talks on the subject of Intimacy called, “Invitation to Intimacy – The Only Way Out Is In”. In the early days, these will be completely without charge, as you and we will be pioneering what we hope to be a new spiritual path. Jerome and I will approach the subject of Intimacy in a unique way, exploring both the myths and the mystery that surround this powerful experience. Anyone who has an interest in attending can email me at: geoffrey@geoffreyrose.com, and I will give them more of the details.
