When life hands you lemons… ask for oranges.

When life hands you lemons… ask for oranges.  I had this thought this morning. Of course I don’t mean simply to wish for something better. But on a very deep level most of us are conditioned, or hard-wired, to expected what we are getting; so, of course we get what we expect. Changing this requires the ability and willingness to ask for more. And herein lies the rub. 

When life hands us lemons as children, we typically do one or two things. We learn to make lemonade and/or we “sour grape” what we aren’t getting. “Love? Who needs love? I’ll show you. I don’t need your stupid love anyway.” We learn to do without and not risk asking for more. 

One member of my Vision Circle, the amazing Diana Loomans, said that we’ve got to tug on the apron of the universal mother when we want something. She called it volition. We lose this volition if, when we tugged on the apron of our early caregiver, our needs weren’t met. We must override the disappointment and sense of dread we may now feel in asking for more of what we want. We must learn how, and then be willing, to tug at the apron of the universal mother. This mother will not deny us.

When life hands you lemons… ask for oranges.

Practical Spirituality

I’m pragmatic. I take an interest in something if it can improve the quality of my life. When I was just a teenager I sensed that my thought was running my life. Unfortunately, it was running it into the ground. I needed help in “screwing my head on right”. Enter meditation and metaphysics.

Recognizing the relationship between my thinking and my reality, as painful as that recognition was at the time, proved a turning point in my life. Then, learning to take charge of my consciousness, and thereby take charge of my condition/experience, proved to be an even more empowering lesson.

Today, in addition to my private practice, I meet with several like-minded people on a weekly basis. We discuss the mechanics of change and creativity – sharing our wins and challenges with each other. I invite you to surround yourself with people who “get it.” The more time you spend in the company of men and women who are actively taking responsibility for their lives, the sooner you will be willing and able to do the same. Conversely, I invite you to spend less and less time with those who blame others for their life circumstances. Victimhood is so passé.

“Freedom is responsibility”- Thomas Jefferson

♡ Namaste